If being a longhair is part of your identity, you will probably
feel like you were born that way. Identity arises in childhood,
and it often goes back to our earliest memories. From our own
perspectives, those of us with a longhair identity feel like we
were born that way. And perhaps we were.
Men are starting to grow their hair long again, something which
hasn't happened in abundance since the 60's and 70's. There was
a brief bout of long hair popularity during the 1980s and 90s,
but it was washed out with "anti-hippie" sentiment from
conservative squares.
The
thing about long hair is that its more sexual. It looks
unique on every person. The way they are meant to look.
Not everyone looks good with long hair however. Some people
look okay with short or medium length hair... But almost
all people look fabulously sexy with long hair. There's
something about that mane of hair, almost lion-like or
Christ-like, that has a sort of animal magnetism and natural
beauty to it.
Hair is naturally beautiful. Its no surprise that more
hair equals more attractive. In contrast to baldness,
it is definitely more attractive. Most women prefer men
with medium length to long hair. Short hair comes in 2nd,
and baldness, last.
When
the movie stars grow their hair long (sometimes its a
wig) for a role, the attractiveness level goes up. Even
it worked for Jesus Christ. Christ on the cross has been
a hidden sex symbol for centuries, with his long sexy
hair, rugged good looks, clad only a loin cloth and the
well-toned muscles of a carpenter. He was naturally charismatic
and the long hair must have helped to increase his popularity.
It's interesting to note how some conservative people
get really upset when they see a man with long hair. They
think the person is a hippie or gay, and are deliberately
rude to that person as a result.
Charles Moffat, the founder of the Lilith Gallery is an
artist and has long hair. He is frequently told he looks
like a hippie and people frequently assume that because
he has long hair and is an artist, "oh, well then
he must be gay!" The truth is Moffat isn't gay. He
is very much a horny straight male, judging by the fact
that he paints nude/partially nude women on a regular
basis!!
Long hair
is for men what short hair is to women, a choice of lifestyle.
Some women prefer to have short hair, or even shave their
head.
If long hair is part of your identity, it may be as much
a part of your mental picture of yourself as is your sex
- generally another component of one's identity. If you
are a man whose identity includes having long hair, the
realization of that, of its importance to you, and of
your determination to stand up for what you are, can bring
you great internal peace. With that peace and determination,
you can go much further than you ever could as a timid
shorthaired man who was unhappy and clueless as to knowing
who he was. This realization is a time for celebration,
and a time for one to take pride in being what he is -
a born longhair.
There are two reasons
men become longhairs. You either do it for others, or
you do it for yourself. You are longhaired because of
fashion. You have long hair because you like the reactions
it garners from other people. The second one is, you are
longhaired because it is part of your identity. You have
it because it is part of your identity - who you feel
you yourself are. Your longhair mindset arises from within,
not from others.
What others think about you will be the doubt arise in
mind. Some of the questions are; Will people think I'm
a girl? Will people think I am gay? Will gay men hit on
me? What other things will people think? Leave all those
stuffs.
If you are big boned with a very masculine face and you
are six feet seven inches tall, no one will think that.
They won't ask you either! If you are slight and effeminate
in appearance, and you were counting on a masculine style
of haircut before, to make you look masculine, then you
might confuse some people.
The one
way to dispel all misconceptions promptly is to grow facial
hair. Head hair is not a sexual marker, but facial hair
is, and in the direction you want to be read. No one will
mistake you at all once you grow it, from the moment it
is seen.
Only the ignorant ones will think that you are a gay.
At the moment, long hair is quite rare in the gay community,
and most longhairs that one sees are straight. Most longhairs
do not look like women, most gay men do not want men who
look like women anyway, and long hair is out of fashion
at the moment in most gay circles, anyway. So forget this
one.
People's hair, if given time to grow and kept neatly will
eventually which a naturally long state. And that natural
state is incredibly sexy and attractive, the way we were
meant to be seen.
Cut your hair differently,
grow it long, medium, perm it. Do something wild/natural
with it! Don't shave off your chest hair just because
thats what fashion models do... grow that rug! Give your
woman something to hold onto when you're giving it to
her! Women who crave hairless men are control freaks who
don't realize they're missing out on a beautiful thing!
The natural male body, provided its not overweight and
sluggish from too many donuts is a gorgeous thing. A physical
Adonis of male beauty, capped on top with lush full hair.
One important thing to consider at a time discrimination
occurs is the answer to the question, "Why am I a
longhair?" The answer may help you decide whether
you will cut your hair or not.